“You can seek the advice of others, surround yourself with trusted advisors. But in the end, the decision is always yours and yours alone. And when it’s time to act and you’re all alone with your back against the wall, the only voice that matters is the one in your head.” ~ Meredith, Grey’s Anatomy
As I have blogged about previously, I have a lot of trouble making decisions. I am always so worried about making the “right” decision, that I will go around to as many people as possible and ask for their opinion, trying to make sure that everyone agrees with my choice.
But the truth is, inevitably you are going to find some people who agree with you and some who don’t. On my last inpatient admission, I was trying to make a decision about what to do for aftercare upon discharge, and I kept asking different staff members and patients for their opinion. Finally, my therapist said “Look, you just have to make a decision, you can keep asking a million different people, and some of them are going to say one thing and some are going to say another, but ultimately you know yourself best, so you just need to trust yourself and not care what others think.”
I have been trying to do that, but as a people pleaser, it sure is hard.